You ever start something that you think you'll have plenty of time to do? Boy has this year been one of those years. You always think, the kids are a bit older now, I'll have more time. One is going to college now, I'll have more time. Well, they're starting to drive, I'll have more time.
What if that "more time" never comes? There is always something that comes up that will fill that "more time". There never seems to be enough time in a day for everything we are expected to do. Expected to accomplish. But, what if WE are the one's that are setting those expectations everyone else just follows suit with the expectations that we set for ourselves?
What do you think would happen if WE changed the expectations? Do you think they'd follow suit with that too? Do you think that they would suddenly be worried that you all of the sudden, you no longer tried to fit everything into what you were setting yourself up to accomplish? Of course they would! Let them ask! Simply, let them know that you have re-evaluated what you set forth as your own expectations and realized, you've expected so much out of yourself that you set your self up to inevitably burn out and fail.
I know, I know. It can't possibly be that simple! It's not as easy as I make it out to be to just tell people you are no longer going to produce what you produced before. It's friggin' hard! It's not as simple as telling people. I know! I've recently been through this.
I've burnt myself out over and over again. I've tried to be the best at everything. DUDE!! I'm exhausted. I have been a perpetually exhausted pigeon for as long as I can remember in my adult life.
Remember last year when I posted I turned 40?? Yep! Here we are at 41 now and I have come to the realization along with some help from some people that I consider close friends and family. I CAN'T KEEP DOING IT ALL!! Why you might ask? My mind and body has told me so. Not in the sense of "Oh boy! She's talking to herself and losing it!" but, in the sense of my body is exhausted. My mind is a fog. I'm constantly overwhelmed and forgetting what I'm doing. The body & mind tells you what is going on with it. It's a matter of if you pay attention and listen.
I'm paying attention now. I'm listening. I'm learning more self-care. I'm learning it's ok to slow down. IT IS OK TO NOT DO IT ALL!! I'm listening....Are you??
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